Is this love?

Student days are full of ambitions,systematic study,exams,projects,internls....blah blah.It took me so long to realise that amidst all these activities,I often forget to sit down and feel the emotions of the teenager within me.
As always,this post may leave you perplexd or even lead you to believe that I am out of my mind but whatever the world thinks about me,I have realised that neglecting human emotions wont work at all.I have just come back after watching Gautam Menon's "Vinnaithandi Varuvaaya" and I have realised that all these years,I have been ovrlooking the feeling of love.Of course I do love my parents,but when my friends used to talk to me about how they find charm and beauty in every single thing when they are in a relation with a guy,I used to never understand that.In fact,not just me,but quite a few of my friends never understood what that meant.Today,after the movie,all of us talked our minds out over a cup of coffee.
Most of us fear falling in love.My friends told me that they negate and neglect such emotions because they feel that studies will get affected.More importantly,they simply overlook such things because their parents may not like it,their parents may get hurt.Thats where I was really touched-"parents may get hurt".
We sacrifice one kind of love for another kind of love.What a wierd life we live!I am not trying to say that on finding someone good,everyone should elope.Its just that our mindsets havent grown enough to accommodate the fluctuations and uncertainities of life.Thinking deep,all of us are living our lives for someone else's happiness-wifes do not go for a divorce despite havig got fed up with their husbands only because they want their children to be happy,teenagers sacrifice their career interests to satisfy their parents,men do not quit their uninspiring jobs just to feed their kids and keep their families happy........the saga goes on.
The one thing I have realised is that whatever we do,we must do it with full interest-be it love ,job,family or whatever.Whatever it takes,never negate your emotions.At the end of it all,whats life if you do not find charm in it?
Hoping for a day when our society will be ready to dissolve its pseudo moral codes and accept human emotions as they are so that we can at least find happiness in this momentary thing called life!

International Women's Day!

"The Stigma Of Womanhood" is a book which impressed me right from the moment I started reading it.Written by an Assamese writer Mansi Sinha,the book looks into the problem of existence that a woman faces if she does not get married at a reasonable phase of her life.
It is a fact that women who are not married at least by their late 20s are viewed with suspicion by the Indian society or in fact,the Oriental society for that matter.Marriage is the destiny traditionally offered to women by the society.Most women are married,or have been,or plan to be or suffer from not being.The celibate woman is to be explained and defined with reference to mariage.Thus,marriage decides the image of a woman in the society.But why does this factor not apply to a man?Independant and unmarried men are often refered to as "intellectuals".If a man goes into moral and sexual anarchy,the society overlooks it.But,if a virgin,disciplined woman stays unmarried,she is called vamp.
The purpose of this post is not to profess feminist ideologies because I am more a Humanist than a Feminist.It is just a thought that came to my mind while reading Manasi Sinha's book and I was quite disappointed to realise that tomorrow,if my marriage prolongs because of my intention to study more or maybe find my space in the world,I too will have to go through the same situations.What an ironic realisation at the time when the whole world is celebrating the 100th International Women's Day!